7.4.08

Attach and Detach

情感是很奇怪的事。很想有人了解自己,但當有人似乎能看穿自己的時候,卻又怕。於是心裡那堵牆便不停地在拆拆建建。

怕沒人喜歡自己,但又怕人太喜歡自己。喜歡一個人,但又不想自己太喜歡一個人。

於是自己長期處於這種充滿矛盾的attach and detach拉鋸戰下產生的虛無狀態中。

是我太多憂慮,還是我根本太自私?

9 則留言:

Angel Mandala 天使曼陀羅 提到...

i guess it depends on whether u wanna have a relationship which is "supplementary" or "complimentary" ...?

may i put your link in my "friendship links"?^_^

VC 提到...

好好醜醜博一醜吧。

南蠻人 提到...

Hi Angel,
You are most welcomed to put my link onto your friendship links!
relationship can be a very complicated issue...from a book I'm reading now - The unbearable Lightness of Being.

VC,
Yes, maybe you are right. I need courage and determination, these are the quality I lack of, no matter in relationship or other issues.

L L 提到...

怕,是因為驚會失敗,或失去;卻沒有想過若得到了,會有那些好處與喜悅。當怕大過希望,甚麼都不會去做了。

放出去罷,感覺不好就收回來,又會失去甚麼呢?風箏未上過天,怎能有俯瞰大地的感覺,也不會有比翼雙飛的機會。

談戀愛的重點不在被愛,而在愛人,問問自己你會時刻希望那人快樂嗎?這是最好的試劑!

VC 提到...

對對方笑多D,談多,比多D鼓勵;
引對方主動,妳不要拒絕,隨緣便成了。

到時請我飲。

Angel Mandala 天使曼陀羅 提到...

savageman, tks:) i'll put it immediately!

Is this book by Michael Quinton (correct spelling?)?

Once i've passed through the sudden death of my dearest Mom, i've got nothing to scare, nothing to wait coz i treat everyday as my LAST day!

南蠻人 提到...

Laulong,

謝謝你的勸勉. 我當然希望那人快樂, 但心裡還是有些怕, 若發現那人最後原來覺得沒有我會快樂一點, 我會不開心很久很久...

VC,
我都做了, 可惜那人已一不在香港, 不能常常見到他了 >_<

Angel,
Treating everyday as your last day is a very positive way of living...I also want to apply this to my life...but then the first thing I would do is to quit my job :P, then I will be in serious trouble if I don't die tomorrow! Haha...

L L 提到...

sava:

生命要 put a bet 啊!

是的,不賭不會輸,但不落注也不會贏!想想假如那人也期待著,只是大家的疑慮,令雲與清風終不相碰,會是很可惜的事。

若負面回應,會感到難受?那我是坦然久了。表白了沒有結果,倒得了個明白。很解脫,我可以再把目光望遠,搜尋一個更可鍾情的身影!

Angel Mandala 天使曼陀羅 提到...

TO TELL HIM or NOT TO TELL HIM ... hmmmmmmm, well, i've experienced once, and, you know the result ...:)